Do you feel that cosmetic enhancements are making everyone look like a snapchat filter?.Opening Instagram was getting pretty depressing, it was making me feel sick.
I was following celebrities and influencers Instagram was suggesting I should follow. It didn’t take long to notice how many well off women have skin, faces and lips that look the same. Particularly lip fillers to make your lips look big and luscious. As if thin lips or natural lips were something to be ashamed off. As if we all must have swollen lips. There is no natural look for lip fillers. They look like lips fillers even when they go for the “natural look”. One thing I did, was unfollow all those Instagram accounts with the massive following. No more lip filler addicts pouting on my Instagram.It really makes the app a bit more worthy of the space it takes on my phone. I follow accounts with little followers but accounts that inspire me or that post photos I enjoy seeing. Instagram and the selfie culture are pretty much to blame in the obsession with having work done. In fact, not having work done, is almost becoming the new shame.

Thankfully, not everyone is at it . Take a famous woman like Kate Middleton, for example, she has thin lips but she is beautiful and classy. She also has line expressions in her forehead that make her look warm and just like the young mum she is with three kids. Her natural look give her this aura of being at ease with herself and happy in her own skin .

Pretty just the way she is

But she is an exception in fame-land . Celebrities are at it, “girlfriends of” are at it, influencers are at it and wannabe influencers are also at it. It is as if we women who don’t it, don’t look after ourselves. I’m happy with how I look not because I believe Im prettier than anyone but because that is just how I look and even if I was not, that is me, that is what nature gave me and that surely will always be better than what some Hyaluronic acid fillers may do.

One day it will be okay to be a Hollywood starlet and have thin, natural lips. It will be okay to be you

The cosmetic look makes people look exactly the same regardless of how different they are. It is like applying the same filter to hundreds of pictures. Yes, they maybe different pictures but they will all share the same look. I don’t see anything empowering about plastic surgery unless it is strictly necessary. I remember the first time I had to go under a general anaesthesia. I really felt powerless and I wondered why some people do surgery that is unnecessary and could compromise their health.

Other than that, can someone tell me what is empowering about following the crowd? I thought one has to be a leader not a follower. The fact that we will all get some lines eventually shows we are living, shows we haven’t died young. Shows it is okay to live past 35 and be okay with how we look and who we are. There is nothing empowering about living under an exhausting pressure to look better than you did 10 years ago, to look younger, to look wrinkle free. There is always someone more young, more beautiful and happier in their skin. How you looked at 25 is not how you will look at 35 , 45 or 55. Best to accept this to live happily in the woman you will become as you age. Accept that you will be beautiful regardless of your age and that the dewy beauty of youth is just for those going through that period. It is an ephemeral phase for us all. I will never ever have baby skin again because I did when I was a baby!. No regrets !My one year old does have beautiful baby skin but it would be ludicrous for me to try to get that skin , right?one day, in 45 years, she may have some wrinkles but she will still be beautiful.

All right, let’s pout

This exhausting pressure seems to keep women forever 21 emotionally and not sure about you but I find wisdom and confidence in your skin a really attractive feature. A trio of dermatologists at Boston University published  an essay in the JAMA Facial Plastic Surgery website titled, “Selfies – Living in the Era of Filtered Photographs.” It outlined a new twist on the condition known as body dysmorphic disorder (BDD) in which people have an excessive preoccupation with natural flaws and how they appear to others. According to them, “a new phenomenon, dubbed ‘Snapchat dysmorphia,’ has patients seeking out cosmetic surgery to look like filtered versions of themselves instead, with fuller lips, bigger eyes, or a thinner nose” . “This is an alarming trend because those filtered selfies often present an unattainable look and are blurring the line of reality and fantasy for these patients.”

There is nothing more empowering than accepting who you are and being who you are. No-one will be able to compete with that. Now if plastic surgery and cosmetic enhancements truly make you happier, then, your choice of course .