Part of growing up and reach maturity as a woman is learning not to dwell on a broken heart for too long. When I was younger, it used to take me months , even years to get over an ex or a relationship. It doesn’t happen any more. I learned my lesson the hard way by wasting a lot of time dwelling on broken relationships but that no longer happens. I really do have better things to do with my life and my time than feeling miserable, don’t we all? then why do we do it? . I spent a summer miserable thinking about a certain someone while he was enjoying himself. And why shouldn’t he? Well done to him for knowing how to enjoy life and zero points to me for feeling as if the end of a relationship was the end of the world. They say that youth is wasted on the young and this was definitely my case.

I still have friends and colleagues who text and call in distress sometimes when someone disappears, cheats on them, ghosts them, breaks their heart and all that jazz. These women have no reason to feel like they do; they are healthy, they are beautiful people, they have their whole life ahead of them. Then why? . I know it is hard to let go of feelings but once someone shows no interest, disrespects you or is indifferent; what’s the point?.

There is no point in wasting a precious second of your life. Also you are busy , you have dreams, you want to have fun, you want to enjoy life and doing this with that miserable person, won’t be possible so let go and get on without dwelling on your broken heart for too long. Also, if he has wronged you, the best thing you can do, is completely move on from it. Just erase the person but the bad feelings too and no point in talking over and over again about how he wronged you. It’s fine, it happens, it’s life so don’t act as if you are about to die please!

Here is a video I made when I was about to dwell on someone but decided not to. What I discovered was great and the feelings even better. There is only one life and better if you feel happy. This is what I would say to my younger self, enjoy and don’t dwell on that obnoxious twat for one more second please.