Walk around some areas of Central London on a weekday and you will notice the alpha male and female. They are the people who give the impression of being extremely important and are so preoccupied with their own office sanctuaries that they resemble robots for whom it is a badge of honor to be busy, over-worked and stressed out. I often wonder what happiness is for them. We live in a society where who you are is no longer determined by who you are as a person but by what you do and what you have. London is becoming a city for the rich and powerful and, as a result, it runs the risk of losing its soul — that much-needed balance that every big city needs. It is as if Central London is a place solely for those who are exceedingly and ostentatiously wealthy. Love is also becoming a transaction for some alpha people. It has a price tag and the status of their other half is just as important as having chemistry or a connection. Madness, yet very true.
On a recent trip to Sicily, I met a local fisherman . This man, Giuseppe, taught me a lot about happiness in his simplicity and in his unconditional love for the sea, for his part of the world, for his job and for his family. He made me see that life is so much simpler and happier, the less we obsess about what we want to achieve or possess or become. Maybe all these robotic people whom one meets around some parts of London just need to be a little less self-centered. Perhaps employers need to loosen up and create happy working environments where human beings can learn to respect and admire each other for who they are as people. Wherever one meets people, one should have the feeling of meeting another human being, not a “banker” or a “Buddhist,” for example, because then, there are differences, which are secondary, but if we leave these differences aside, we could all communicate, exchange ideas and share experiences feeling at ease and creating a simple and direct connection with a fellow human being.
He told us that happiness is appreciating what you already have, not yearning for what you don’t. He was not preaching to us or telling us how to live our lives. He was just being himself; humble, wise, extremely sharp and with the confidence of a man of the sea. He lives with a sense of fulfillment and a serenity that are very uncommon. These are not qualities that he had set out to achieve; he just had them. He loves the sea and loves being a fisherman, as a result, he is utterly powerful, charismatic, and paradoxically, he truly is what an alpha male should be.